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Sadomasochism!

Jul 022019

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We all have heard the term sadomasochism, where the sadist enjoys inflicting pain and the masochist enjoys feeling pain. But let’s dig deeper to make sure everyone gets the right idea and what’s behind it.

Where does the word Sadism comes from?

The word sadism is derived from the Count Donatien de Sade, an eighteenth century French nobleman who wrote novels depicting sexual violence and cruelty.

What does Sadist means by definition?

A sadist is a person who is sexually aroused or gains sexual gratification by inflicting pain, cruelty, or humiliation on others. But not only that; some can also experience the same gratification from watching someone else inflicting pain on others. Indeed, a lack of consent may be a requisite part of the experience for a True Sadist.
Sadism may be of a sexual nature, or it may not!

Where does the word Masochism comes from?

The word Masochism is derived from the Austrian writer Leopold von Sacher-Masoch in the nineteenth century, who described the gratification he got from his own pain and humiliation.

What does Masochist means by definition?

A Masochist is a person who derives sexual gratification from being subjected to physical pain or humiliation.
For submissives, allowing someone else to control their sexual pleasure can be a turn on, while some measure of pain is said to heighten sensation, excitement, and therefore, sexual arousal.
Masochism may be of a sexual nature, or it may not!

BDSM and Sadomasochism.

In the BDSM community, sadomasochistic practices are common. Sadomasochistic sexual encounters usually occur in the context of scripted scenes that simulate interactions between Master or Mistress and slave, employer and servant-maid, teacher and student, owner and horse or dog and parent and child. For the dominant in the situation, being in control of another's person pleasure - and to some extent their bodies and minds - is also a stimulating part of the game. Submissives like taking this role because it brings up feelings from childhood, like dependency, safety, and protection and winning the approval of the sadist becomes the center of his/her attention.

But keep in mind in BDSM, the consent and comfort of both partners is very important, so establishing limits and safe words to ensure both participants safety and integrity is imperative.

How did I learn to be a Real Mistress.

Jun 052019

undefinedTo have a better understanding on how to be a great Mistress, I have always said is by being a submissive. You will learn by being dominated what is expected from you and that will help you to know what to expect from your submissives when you become the one to Dominate. After serving for months a very strict and experienced Master I learned what has to be done, what to expect, how to guide, to teach, to approach to rule, to succeed.

It was not my place, I am no submissive so I was miserable each day I spent at his service; but the teaching was incredible. After I left him I started training with the implements, reading books and being mentored by other Mistresses. “My experiences as a submissive also gave me a first hand look into the psychological elements of domination.”
“We all walk around with our walls up, only showing others safe glimpses of ourselves. It was exhilarating to see what happens when people are willing to be vulnerable.”

After all my training, I became a Real Mistress. But what does being a Real Mistress means?
In BDSM, a Mistress is a woman in the Dominant position of a relationship. She is the one in control of the submissive partner, and she owns and has complete and utter dominance over her partner. Those that she controls must always address her as Mistress (unless she chooses another term of power), and she is known to be the supreme leader of her relationship, making decisions for herself and her sub without question or resistance. Her slave will work hard to serve her every need, always thinking of her first, worshipping her as if she were a living, breathing Goddess.

Now while this may seem a different relationship structure to those outside the community, it is not nearly as dangerous or assuming as it may seem. While the Mistress does indeed have control of her relationship, the sub below her entered into the relationship with full consent, and most of the times this sub wants nothing more than to be in her presence, serving her every need.

This type of power exchange relationship fills a deep need for the sub, and the only way they can find true happiness and satisfaction is by being in a relationship where they are completely dominated. While there may be situations where the Mistress does exert her control and power harshly; typically she does so in a way that is meant to better the relationship and create happiness and harmony for herself and her partner.

A Real Mistress is a Caring Mistress!!!

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