Jun 132019
Pegging, or anal penetration of a submissive male by a Dominant Female, using a strap on dildo; is perhaps the pinnacle of power exchange in a BDSM relationship. While the physical side can involve pleasure for the submissive, a big part of what makes pegging such an intense turn on are the psychological aspects.
Helping Mistress fasten the buckles on the harness that holds the big, thick lifelike rubber penis and listening to Her tell you how she is about to make you Her bitch, brings home the reality of what is about to happen.
BDSM is about control, and being made to get on your knees and deep throat Her massive cock before she crams it into your quivering hole is the ultimate expression of Dominance, the ultimate role reversal. With every stroke, She takes a little bit more of your masculinity turning you into her property and breaking your will. She understands how humiliating it is for you and taunts you as She takes you over and over again.
She might tell you what a cock loving slut you are or that She is going to get you a real cock one day, or perhaps pimp you out. She might compare the size of Her cock to yours, or threaten to peg you in front of people.
The effects of pegging are multiplied exponentially when the sub is locked in chastity for extended periods of time. This is in part because of how sexually desperate the sub is, but more so because of the synergies between the control elements of pegging and chastity. The caged sub feels controlled before even being spread and violated.
The sub can be penetrated in an endless variety of positions and there are lots of things that can make the pegging experience even more intense. While pegging can be soft and loving, most times the sub can be taken roughly and being slapped and whipped or tortured during penetration. The Mistress might even use the subs caged cock as a handle while riding him or perhaps pull on his collar or make him wear a bit in their mouth for that same purpose.
Ultimately the sub will crave being pegged and learn to beg for it!
Jul 092019
Truth be told, there’s grounded scientific research which suggests that BDSM and kinky sex is not just a portal into sexual exploration and experimentation which navigates away from the traditional ‘vanilla’ sexual lifestyle, but that BDSM is something which also leads to numerous physical and mental health benefits.
Kinky sex is primarily about two main things; negotiation and consent. In order to negotiate and navigate through consent, a couple needs to have an open and honest communication. For that reason, couples and individuals who practice BDSM and kinky sex tend to be in a far better position than non-kinky couples when it comes to the art of communication. Kinky couples discuss their feelings, their desires in an open fashion which then leads to improved communication between the two.
Communication is an important part of kink and BDSM. Couples need to discuss their fantasies with their sexual partner, they need to then negotiate about what each can do for the other. They will discuss what turns them on, their likes and dislikes and what they’re willing to do. This discussion forms the negotiation. You don’t just walk into the bedroom one day and your partner is sitting there with a ball gag and a whip and they say – I want to be whipped. There needs to be the discussion of the practicality of the scenario, how hard do you want to be whipped, do you want me to talk dirty while I do it, can I pull your hair, am I allowed to be rough and controlling?
Couples that practice BDSM might have a debriefing discussion after the play session where they will discuss what they liked, what turned them on, and if there was anything that made them feel uncomfortable. In this regard, BDSM couples are not just having a single discussion, they’re having multiple discussions about their activities until it is refined to the most ideal level that suits all involved.
When it comes to BDSM activities, some of the activities might involve a sense of physical danger and risk. It is therefore essential that communication and trust exists between a couple – both of which contribute to the sense of intimacy that they feel for each other and ultimately improve the relationship between the two consenting individuals.
A Kinky relationship, or one that engages in kinky sex is stronger for a variety of reasons not the least of which include the increased sense of intimacy and the levels of communication. Even a simple discussion about bringing a simple vibrator to use while playing, can open up the relationship and bring intimacy, honesty and openness. For this reason, and the idea that the individuals are close, having a kinky relationship encourages fidelity. That’s even inclusive of the idea of open relationships and polyamorous relationships.
But what else can BDSM do for you?
Kink actually improves mental health. Kink practitioners were found to be less neurotic, more open and mindful, more secure and grounded within their relationships and had a better sense of well-being. In part this comes from the increased level of intimacy, openness and communication that kinky players have with their partners. The communications helped them understand their partner in profound and interesting ways. If for example one partner is into the idea of being restrained – what they’re really looking for is the idea of submission and having their sense of power taken away. Through understanding this, it gives a profound insight into your partners mind. You can then think; my partner likes the idea of having his sexual power taken away and for me to take charge in the bedroom.
It doesn’t stop there and I could go on and on talking about the benefits that BDSM brings to the table, So what if I tell you that it also helps with anxiety…
Many people think that it can be stressing in many ways and mostly if you go deeper, as for example to play not only with restrains but to inflict or receive pain.
They might attribute the experiencing of giving or receiving pain as a stressful activity. The reality is however, that the sexual enjoyment of receiving or giving pain will actually reduce feelings of anxiety. As well.
As you see, BDSM is far from being only a sexual matter, it goes deeper, maybe there are kinks that aren’t for you and your partner, but you might find that there are so any kinks that you haven’t even heard about.
Try, communicate, push limits and then you decide as a couple what makes you both happy.
