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Practice and repetition will make you a great sub. $$

Aug 052019

Practice, practice, practice, repeat, repeat repeat! By the time your Mistress is ready to transition you from training to daily service, you will be as close to perfect as a human can get.

You will do specific things a certain way over and over again while your Mistress is training you. Do not get annoyed or frustrated by it. Even if you think you are ready, let her decide, she knows better.

Repetition ensures you will learn to do things the way that pleases your Mistress best, and your submission will make its way into your subconscious. You will do it until you believe it, crave it and feels as if you were born knowing.

It is kind of a ritual that helps you reach into that inner clay of who you are and mold it into a happy, satisfying submissive life. You will be instructed to bow, kneel or respond in unique ways every time your Mistress enters the room so the environment is set for your submission.

You may be asked to repeat phrases over and over again to reinforce the idea that you belong to her. If your Mistress tells you to set the table a certain way, or lick her pussy slow, or to massage her feet whenever she takes off her shoes; you will do it that way every time until the practice becomes second nature.

If you make a mistake or require correction you can be sure the Mistress will have you repeat the task over and over. Again don’t get frustrated, be patient and do it. She is doing it to train you for a long lasting D/s relationship.

One day unexpectedly she will say things like “Good job boy”, “I am pleased”, “Sit by my side”. Those will be phrases you will always crave and never forget. But remember it gets better. One day she will collar you and you will belong to her because in her eyes you became worth it.

 

Your Mistress deserves gratitude!

Sep 062019

Be grateful for everything that gets you through the day with your submission. If you are given tasks by your Mistress, thank her for the privilege of serving her.

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Moreover, being grateful for the duties she assigns to you is a way to acknowledge that her enjoyment is your joy and that you love to satisfy her requirements.

Thank you Mistress! As a submissive or slave, you will repeat this three words constantly. You will say thank you Mistress not only for the good things but for punishment and corrections too.
The more grateful you are to your Mistress for the penalties and advice she gives you, the stronger you will become in her love and strength.

Learning and growing takes time, energy and patience but its not only for you but for her as well. She will decide the best way to teach you, she will decide when to correct you and she will also decide how to punish you if you deserve it.

As you see teaching can be even more exhausting and challenging than learning. Your Mistress is giving you that gift; take it, appreciate it and take advantage of it.

Don’t disappoint her, if she chose you is because she knows you can learn how to satisfy her needs. She is giving you Purpose!

Difference between Femdom, Mistress and Dominatrix. $$

Jul 102019

Femdom:

People use the word Femdom to describe a Woman as the Dominant type. But the word on its own refers in general to Female Supremacy where Women are superior than men in every aspect of their lives and everything is associated with Power.
In Femdoming, men have no value, they are just providers. Money, sexual gratification, advancement in status and procreation. In general, their job is to stay focused on keeping their Woman happy.
The nature of FemDom shows that submissives would do well to recognize the value of their Mistress and show their appreciation of her time once accepted into her service. Not merely through obedience and submission, but regular gifts should at least be offered.
So taking this out of the way, lets talk about the difference between a Mistress and a Dominatrix.

Mistress:

A Mistress keeps Dominance in her everyday life and not only over the submissives and slaves she may own, but also in control of her own affairs.
Even if there should be any sexual contact, a Mistress will always retain the control element. The submissive partner is always owned by her.
A Mistress has standards and expectations and sticks to them. There will not be acceptance or tolerance for anything less than what she wants.
Most people are not aware of how difficult is to be a Real Mistress, but if you take the time to learn, read and explore , they will find out that being a Mistress is one of the hardest, most responsible but also most fulfilling and liberating positions.

A Mistress means much more than merely stalking around in thigh boots, wearing latex fetishwear and carrying floggers or whips. She may of course choose to do this anyway, if that is her wish. It is a complete lifestyle, a personality trait, a different consciousness.

Dominant Females often engage in BDSM activities such as bondage, ball busting, humiliation, face sitting, forced feminization, forced chastity, forced orgasm, and pegging.

Dominatrix (Domme):

A Female that takes a Dominating role in BDSM play and most of the times gets paid to engage in BDSM play and or activity in a professional play-space or online. It is for most a business, their job. The subs/slaves that engage with them also tribute in some capacity in exchange for the interactions with the Domme.

But keep in mind Professional Dommes are not prostitutes. Any remuneration is for her Domination skills and expertise, not for sexual contact or sex acts. Sexual contact will not be a part of any session with a Professional Dominatrix. So if you think beause you are paying them you will have sex, you can’t be far from reality.
The role of a Dominatrix may not even involve physical pain toward the submissive; her domination can be verbal, involving humiliating tasks, or servitude.
Psychological Dominance is the main aspect which sets a Mistress apart from a Dominatrix. Although other Dominant Women may of course choose to incorporate psychological dominance into their power exchange relationships and scenes.

I really hope this has cleared any doubt for you because you will not find any article as explanatory and right to the point as this one.

 

Why Do People Choose A BDSM Lifestyle?

Jun 132019

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People choose a BDSM lifestyle for different reasons. Someone might be attracted to it because of a book, a magazine, a movie, heard about it from a friend etc. Most people like BDSM to experiment with control. A Mistress as a Master enjoy being in charge, having the control and power over others.

Why do submissives like this lifestyle? For a submissive, having control over your life or your body taken away can be very exciting. The uncertainty about what's going to be done to you, regardless the safe word you can use to end the scene; has still a psychological effect. That uncertainty and fear that comes from giving up control is a very powerful feeling.

Surrendering control to another person is a very "freeing" experience itself while responsibility is often stressful. By giving up freedom, a submissive may feel "freed" from responsibility and therefore freed from the stress that comes with it, if only for a moment.

Why do Dominants (alpha) like this lifestyle? Having control over another person's life or body can feel very empowering. The knowledge that you now have power over someone else, and they will not only willingly but gladly submit to your will, can be very exciting.

So now that we established what the Dominant wants and what the submissive needs, let's talk about TRUST. For a submissive, being able to Trust someone so deeply that you are willing to literally put your life in their hands is very romantic. For a Dominant, having someone in your life who is willing to give you that kind of Trust can be profoundly moving.

Fantasy is another big element of BDSM. We call it role-play; one is in power and the other is powerless. Fantasy and role-play are probably the most common forms of BDSM out there, because it has such an obvious appeal. Even people who are horrified by bondage and D/s can usually see the appeal of role-play in the bedroom.

Last but not least there's the remaining aspect of BDSM; the enjoyment of inflicting or being in pain (commonly referred to as S&M). It plays into both the control and the fantasy aspects of BDSM. Often a BDSM scene will involve the submissive being "punished" by the Mistress/Master for some reason and it may also involve a fantasy to justify it.

 

The Real Meaning About Pegging And Being Pegged.

Jun 132019

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Pegging, or anal penetration of a submissive male by a Dominant Female, using a strap on dildo; is perhaps the pinnacle of power exchange in a BDSM relationship. While the physical side can involve pleasure for the submissive, a big part of what makes pegging such an intense turn on are the psychological aspects.

Helping Mistress fasten the buckles on the harness that holds the big, thick lifelike rubber penis and listening to Her tell you how she is about to make you Her bitch, brings home the reality of what is about to happen.

BDSM is about control, and being made to get on your knees and deep throat Her massive cock before she crams it into your quivering hole is the ultimate expression of Dominance, the ultimate role reversal. With every stroke, She takes a little bit more of your masculinity turning you into her property and breaking your will. She understands how humiliating it is for you and taunts you as She takes you over and over again.

She might tell you what a cock loving slut you are or that She is going to get you a real cock one day, or perhaps pimp you out. She might compare the size of Her cock to yours, or threaten to peg you in front of people.

The effects of pegging are multiplied exponentially when the sub is locked in chastity for extended periods of time. This is in part because of how sexually desperate the sub is, but more so because of the synergies between the control elements of pegging and chastity. The caged sub feels controlled before even being spread and violated.

The sub can be penetrated in an endless variety of positions and there are lots of things that can make the pegging experience even more intense. While pegging can be soft and loving, most times the sub can be taken roughly and being slapped and whipped or tortured during penetration. The Mistress might even use the subs caged cock as a handle while riding him or perhaps pull on his collar or make him wear a bit in their mouth for that same purpose.

Ultimately the sub will crave being pegged and learn to beg for it!

How did I learn to be a Real Mistress.

Jun 052019

undefinedTo have a better understanding on how to be a great Mistress, I have always said is by being a submissive. You will learn by being dominated what is expected from you and that will help you to know what to expect from your submissives when you become the one to Dominate. After serving for months a very strict and experienced Master I learned what has to be done, what to expect, how to guide, to teach, to approach to rule, to succeed.

It was not my place, I am no submissive so I was miserable each day I spent at his service; but the teaching was incredible. After I left him I started training with the implements, reading books and being mentored by other Mistresses. “My experiences as a submissive also gave me a first hand look into the psychological elements of domination.”
“We all walk around with our walls up, only showing others safe glimpses of ourselves. It was exhilarating to see what happens when people are willing to be vulnerable.”

After all my training, I became a Real Mistress. But what does being a Real Mistress means?
In BDSM, a Mistress is a woman in the Dominant position of a relationship. She is the one in control of the submissive partner, and she owns and has complete and utter dominance over her partner. Those that she controls must always address her as Mistress (unless she chooses another term of power), and she is known to be the supreme leader of her relationship, making decisions for herself and her sub without question or resistance. Her slave will work hard to serve her every need, always thinking of her first, worshipping her as if she were a living, breathing Goddess.

Now while this may seem a different relationship structure to those outside the community, it is not nearly as dangerous or assuming as it may seem. While the Mistress does indeed have control of her relationship, the sub below her entered into the relationship with full consent, and most of the times this sub wants nothing more than to be in her presence, serving her every need.

This type of power exchange relationship fills a deep need for the sub, and the only way they can find true happiness and satisfaction is by being in a relationship where they are completely dominated. While there may be situations where the Mistress does exert her control and power harshly; typically she does so in a way that is meant to better the relationship and create happiness and harmony for herself and her partner.

A Real Mistress is a Caring Mistress!!!

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