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Are you an Alpha Female? $$

Sep 062019

Many Women identify themselves as Alpha Females. Most of the times they are physically attractive, and sexually empowered.

“Strong and confident, they know what they want in business, friendships, and romantic relationships.

Now that you know how books and articles describe Alpha Women, lets see if you can relate to them!

Honesty and Trust
An Alpha Woman can be very blunt and she's not lying tolerant. She expects her partner, even if it could hurt her, to always tell the truth. She wants to develop, both separately and in her relationship, and having truthful communication is the only way to do that. Without trust there is nothing.

Self-Confident
An Alpha Woman isn’t afraid to take control of a situation. She speaks her mind and knows what she wants in life. She appreciates the suggestion of others and doesn’t always have to run the show, the only problem is that others sometimes get intimidated by her and prefer to stay quiet.

Independent
An Alpha Woman really enjoys spending time by herself. This time brings her peace of mind, relaxes her and more than a want is a need. If you want to be a part of her life, you need to respect that to keep her comfortable.

Sarcastic and Humorous
An Alpha Woman doesn’t need her partner to be a stand-up comedian, but she likes to joke around. She can be sarcastic, and not everyone will get her humor. If someone can respond to her sarcasm with a witty comeback, she’ll be amused.

Ambitious
An Alpha Woman is going to have big dreams, and although she can do it alone, she doesn’t always want to. Knowing someone wants her to succeed, has her back, and can be counted on is what she craves. But she wants a partner that has their own ambitions as well and tries hard to achieve goals.

Variety
An Alpha Woman gets bored easily. She has no problem making decisions, taking risks or making plans. But if she has a partner, she loves for him to come up with some ideas of how to spend their free time together.
Which film to watch, what fresh dish to prepare, which class to take, where to go?
Anything that will help her learn, grow, and become closer to her partner.

Why Do People Choose A BDSM Lifestyle?

Jun 132019

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People choose a BDSM lifestyle for different reasons. Someone might be attracted to it because of a book, a magazine, a movie, heard about it from a friend etc. Most people like BDSM to experiment with control. A Mistress as a Master enjoy being in charge, having the control and power over others.

Why do submissives like this lifestyle? For a submissive, having control over your life or your body taken away can be very exciting. The uncertainty about what's going to be done to you, regardless the safe word you can use to end the scene; has still a psychological effect. That uncertainty and fear that comes from giving up control is a very powerful feeling.

Surrendering control to another person is a very "freeing" experience itself while responsibility is often stressful. By giving up freedom, a submissive may feel "freed" from responsibility and therefore freed from the stress that comes with it, if only for a moment.

Why do Dominants (alpha) like this lifestyle? Having control over another person's life or body can feel very empowering. The knowledge that you now have power over someone else, and they will not only willingly but gladly submit to your will, can be very exciting.

So now that we established what the Dominant wants and what the submissive needs, let's talk about TRUST. For a submissive, being able to Trust someone so deeply that you are willing to literally put your life in their hands is very romantic. For a Dominant, having someone in your life who is willing to give you that kind of Trust can be profoundly moving.

Fantasy is another big element of BDSM. We call it role-play; one is in power and the other is powerless. Fantasy and role-play are probably the most common forms of BDSM out there, because it has such an obvious appeal. Even people who are horrified by bondage and D/s can usually see the appeal of role-play in the bedroom.

Last but not least there's the remaining aspect of BDSM; the enjoyment of inflicting or being in pain (commonly referred to as S&M). It plays into both the control and the fantasy aspects of BDSM. Often a BDSM scene will involve the submissive being "punished" by the Mistress/Master for some reason and it may also involve a fantasy to justify it.

 

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